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Are you the kind of person that makes sure everyone and everything around you is supported and stable?
Do you absorb their burdens, emotions, and stress as your own?
I used to come home from work every day with a tension headache, low back pain and just plum worn out.
I’d grab for my daily dose of ibuprofen and collapse on the couch to try and regain enough energy to make dinner.
And I was only working 25 hrs/week.
I couldn’t figure out why I couldn’t seem to handle my seemingly easy load.
One day it hit me.
I wasn’t just physically exhausted.
I was emotionally and mentally depleted too.
As helpers we tend to pour our whole selves into everything we do.
I helped my daughter pick out some flowers for her teacher this week to show her appreciation for ALL THE THINGS she has done for her this year.
At the last minute Friday morning, she scrambled to find a message to go with them. She had already made her a giant sized card out of poster board, but this girl doesn’t do anything half way. She copied these words on a little card, glued it to a dowel stick and inserted it into the vase and was finally satisfied with her offer.
These words can be found on countless Mother’s day cards, and who knows, maybe you will get one tomorrow with a similar message, because after all , isn’t that what we do?
ALL THE THINGS?
Our families are grateful.
Maybe that is the outcome we desire;
To be appreciated.
My question for you this morning is ,
“What is it costing you?”
Have you ever stood in the shower and watched the water level start rising around your feet?
It doesn’t take long to realized that something is blocking the flow of water.
Yesterday, as I stood ankle deep in a stagnant pool, I lifted the drain cover to reveal a mass of hair clogging the passageway. ( insert gag reflex)
As much as I dread digging into the scum encased tangles of who knows what kind of hair , if I want the water to start moving again, I have to get rid of the blockage.
I don’t know about you but I CHANGE MY MIND a lot.
Maybe I have a little perfectionism in me or it’s just that I like to weigh things carefully and consider all of my options.
My indecision can drive my husband crazy.
Anyone ever used this comeback when your man started rolling his eyes at your vacillation?
” I’m a woman. I have the right to change my mind.”
But seriously, this is why I practice minimalism as much as possible. The fewer decisions I have to make, the better.
I’m learning, however, that CHANGING MY MIND can be a good thing.
I came in the house the other night with my emotions leading the way.
They led me straight to the refrigerator where my brain came up with the best survival strategy it knew: peanut butter and chocolate ice cream. I took my bowl and sat down to digest it hoping that it would make me feel better about what I had just experienced. It tasted good going down, but when I got to the bottom of the bowl not only were the negative feelings still there, now I had a lump of ice cream just sitting in my gut along with my undigested emotions.
Instead of taking the time to digest my negative emotions I opted to ingest something more pleasurable.
I just wanted to FEEL BETTER.
Sometimes when a storm starts brewing inside of us we, with good intentions, go into survival mode by trying to make the best of it. We reach for our go to solution that has “served us well” in the past.
For me it’s ice cream; for you maybe it’s a glass of wine.
Most of my life I have struggled with the Why of being in a place that is hard.
I am passionate about people thriving and being in healthy environments. I believe that passion is ‘God wired’ and we long to thrive because “He has set eternity in our hearts.”
But does that mean if I find myself in an environment that is hard and full of unhealthy ingredients that I tuck tail and run for cover?
Does that mean that people only thrive in the best of circumstances?
…and what exactly are the ingredients to a healthy thriving place?
Ever had one of those evenings where you are racing against the clock to get things done? Afraid that if you stop and sit down you will be unable to DO all the things..
You know those things that NEED to be done.
Those things that every good mom, wife, or strong woman gets done in a day.
Those things that often keep us DOING and stop us from BEING.
What does that even mean? To BE.
I am all about ACTION VERBS.
When I read my Bible , those are the words I highlight.
GO. SET OUT. MOVE. RUN. REACH FORWARD.
Those are the commands that get me fired up. I’m like ,”Yes! Let’s do this thing!” It’s empowering.
It feels good to MOVE.
But those BEING verbs… those are hard.
Be Still. Be Strong. Be patient. Be content.
How DO you even learn to BE in the midst of all that needs to BE DONE?
I have been doing a little experiment with FOOD the last month.
I started my training to become certified as a HEALTH and WELLNESS/LIFE COACH and decided I needed to join in on the cleanse they were doing.
Y ‘all I am so not into FOOD FADS. I am too frugal to shop in the organic section of the grocery store, and I despise quinoa!
I decided to try this Cleanse/Healthy eating thing NOT because I am passionate about nutrition or getting some kind of result, but more out of curiosity…
I could feel it happening.. my confidence shrinking, the vision of my dreams slowly fading, the clarity I had just moments before being replaced by a storm cloud that…